Thursday, June 22, 2006

20 Things I Miss About Not Having A Relationship

Ok, back from dinner and the movies.

What can I say? I've calmed down a bit from my last post, but rather than go off all the reasons why men suck and then feeling bad for posting it, I'm going to give 20 reasons I miss about a relationship.

1. Being able to rant like this to someone and having them think it's cute

2. Unlimited hugs

3. Hugs that make every problem seem insignificant by comparison

4. Cooking dinner together, then snuggling in front of a DVD for the evening

5. Private jokes/rituals/routines

6. Knowing someone's indiosycrasies

7. Having my own idiosycrasies known

8. Lounging around outside, under the stars, near the water on a warm summer night like tonight.

9. Sharing my dreams with someone

10. Dreaming with someone

11. Being able to spoil someone with affection and attention

12. Being together in the same house, but doing our own thing

13. Double dates

14. Having someone kill ants/spiders/bugs for me - lol

15. Having a rational, logical mind to bounce things off of

16. Having someone else drive the car

17. Snuggling, random hugs, and kisses for no reason

18. Falling asleep and waking up in their arms

19. A steady dancing partner

20. A tolerant karaoke partner

The Caterpillar Soon To Be Butterfly

Dreams.

Are they really windows to the soul? Do they really reveal more about our lives than we are able to process on the conscious level? If we really took the time to analyze them would they provide answers to our questions? Or insights to our circumstances and desires?

The last couple of nights I had some bizarre dreams and I have no doubt that they are related to a few relationships in my life right now. Those relationships, compounded by some stress at work, my mom's sudden barrage of phone calls and well-intended questions about my personal life (this always happens after the birth of a child somewhere - lol!!), and my upcoming ~3 weeks away from home here (I'm really going to miss out on my some of my favorite activities here in the bay area), it doesn't surprise me if my soul is trying to tell me something. A lot is going on and I'm just trying to process it as gracefully and as 'sanefully' as I can.

Dream #1 - 007 aka "Super Spy Chick"
I can't remember all the details, except that I was super spy chick! LOL!! Sydney Briscoe (Alias) has got nothing on me! I was fighting ninjas, slithering between infrared laser beams and kicking a** with all my cool karate moves and shaolin art. I was darting gracefully down a white hallway, dodging obstacles of all kinds (people, booby traps, things being thrown at me, etc.). There was more, but that's mostly what I remember.

Dream #2 - Buck, Is That You?
This dream was just as bizarre as the first one. This time I was in some sort of sci-fi, Buck Rogers-type of situation. I don't really remember anything about what I was doing, except that I was aboard some sort of spacecraft and wearing outfits that were clearly like that from an episode of Buck Rogers. The dream had a Dr. Who feel to it. I love the old Dr. Who episodes with the doctor who wore the long knitted scarf. Anyone remember that guy or am I dating myself here?? LOL!!

Friend's Dream - CLEAR!
The other day a friend told me about his dream involving his ex. He said he was in a hospital room waiting to be seen by the doctor and his ex was mugging the doctor. I didn't get a lot of details, but in the few sentences he shared, it was clear to me that his ex still had a stronghold on his emotions. He's trying to move on, but he can't get past certain things. Which then makes me wonder, why do some dreams reflect your current circumstances so accurately while others are just so bizarre?

Friend #2's Dream - The Catepillar Soon To Be Butterfly
Today my other friend tells me about this really bizarre dream she had involving escaping from a burning home. Fire in so many ways represents transformation and change. I have no doubt that she is undergoing a metamorphosis in some area of her life.

As I was thinking about these dreams and the circumstances involved, I began to wonder... More often than not these days I've felt like my circumstances and surroundings have remained stagnant while my spiritual side is charging full speed ahead. I've been frustrated on many occasions when I still have to deal with the day-to-day when clearly my spirit knows what is important and what is not. I suppose the reverse could be true too. A person could be going through so many circumstantial changes that they've not had enough time to stop, reflect, and process the emotional changes involved.

My earthly body and the daily living has still not caught up with the place or pace where my spirit resides. How do we sync up the two parts of life? Is the key in our dreams? Or, perhaps, the fact that I'm having a increased number of weird dreams the key itself? Perhaps analysis is unnecessary. Perhaps knowing that the dreams are happening is the soul's message to our conscious self. As we go through change or struggles, perhaps our dreams are just our soul's way of saying, "Hey, you're the caterpillar soon to be butterfly".

Happy dreaming, ya'all!

Love ya,
RM

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